My husband is horrified I am writing this article, but I am who I am, and he loves me that way, lol! There are many absurd goings-on when one has children. Juggling the reality of chaos with two babies, I have to do things I wouldn’t have thought a part of real life… previous to their births. I don’t have to write out a list. I am sure, as parents, we all have our own, with fun little nuances. One of my parenting lifesavers has been the bizarre-ity of peeing in my car. You heard it right… I pee in my car. The action has brought me much peace as a parent.
My husband is one in perpetual planning to make life and activities easier. Yet, most of the time he makes outings much more difficult. For example, he is always a fan of NOT bringing a stroller, which is beyond comprehension. The life of modern parents has been blessed with such a helpful product. I have been without a stroller too many times and it has always been a nightmare. Fatigue always wins, whether holding a newborn or your toddler is too tired to continue walking. Lacking brute strength, I have struggled to carry both children while out, but I am stating the obvious. Running after children, not having hands to carry the shopping and diaper bags, drinks… and where do they eat or sleep if they need to. Well, unlike my husband, I learn from my mistakes. When I have a problem, I do my best to come up with a solution, even down to the basics of using the bathroom. I am not too fancy to do what I need to do in life, even if some would think my actions are embarrassing. I’m not ashamed, a wonderful solution to the disorder of taking babies into the bathroom is peeing in your car!
If your first child is not born yet, and you’re wondering what I am referring to, I will let you know.
wearing a baby
When wearing your baby, a young baby that can not stand, you will find there is nowhere to place them in any bathroom. Very few places have those little baby bathroom seats, and a newborn can not sit on one of those anyway. Trying to pee with a baby strapped to you is almost impossible. If you are not wearing too many layers, and you’re ok with spending 10 minutes trying to pull down your pants, and maybe the reality that you can’t get them back up, you can make it happen… maybe.
I usually can’t get my pants back up at all, much less properly. If out with a friend, I always have to ask for assistance. A few of my friends have helped zip and button my pants too many times to count. If I am not with another adult, I have actually left my pants unfastened, when they were not too baggy and I was confident they wouldn’t fall down.
If your baby is old enough to stand, well that doesn’t matter. They touch everything, and I have had one of my daughter’s crawl out from under the stall door, unable to stop peeing, what do you do? I’m serious, I don’t remember how it all played out.
My toddler still has a compulsion to touch everything. She is sweet as pie and tries to resist, but she just can’t. When she was much younger she even pulled out someone’s used tampon from the little bin. Once she realized it was moist she tossed in on me, then laid down on the stall floor, she said she was tired.
in the stroller
Both of my children are still very young and are using a stroller. Even with a stroller, the action of peeing if often impossible. I have a double stroller, and its width can only clear a handicapped stall. Even then, there is usually not enough room to get in myself. I frequent Nordstrom, and they have two handicapped toilets in the bathroom I use. One handicapped stall is actually not a “real” handicapped stall, and the other stall is closed 50% of the time. Leaving me to hunt around until I can find another bathroom that suits the needs of having two babies.
You may be thinking, why not use a family bathroom? Well, unfortunately, those bathrooms are not sacredly used by parents with children. Probably 50% of the time that the Nordstrom bathroom is “closed for repair,” a mall employee is in the family toilet using it to take their time going “number two.”
The list of impossibilities can go on and on. So my solution is to pee in my car. When I arrive at my destination or before I leave, I pee in my car. The action allows my children to be fastened safely in their car seats until I am finished. If my toddler has to pee, my baby has tucked away in her car seat, letting me assist my eldest without all the chaos.
The travel potty my toddler and I use is the OXO 2-in-1 Go Potty with Travel Bag. Not all travel potties are created equal. The options are pretty bleak. My eldest has had travel potties collapse on her fingers, had bowls overflow, liners fall out, sat on many uncomfortable seats… and forget me being able to use it. Well, with the OXO potty, the two of us can use the product without incident. “Designed for standalone use with disposable bags anywhere, or as a potty seat on toilets. The seat is designed for little bottoms and shield prevents splatter. Smooth surfaces are easy to clean, and legs fold in to fit the Potty in the included Travel Bag,” OXOtot.
Get an OXO 2-in-1 Go Potty even if you don’t plan on using it for yourself, it’s the best out there.
some other activities it is good for
- road trips
- hikes, etc..
You will also need one to take to places without family bathrooms for your little ones. It’s better than having them hold on to the toilet seat while they’re peeing. Yes, you can always hold them up, but if you have other small children it may not be possible!
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