The terrible twos may not be that terrible. With both of my children, each stage of their lives have been the best stage of their existence for me in that moment. Birth brings a new life, a being that you love deeper than you ever imagined, and yet you just met. At the 6-month mark, life has become dynamic. Feedings are less demanding, you probably aren’t as tired and getting out the door is much easier. I loved my daily routines: a baby in the front-pack, taking walks in the woods, making baby food, bonding with friends with babies, watching my little ones personality form and seeing all her accomplishments. I continued to feel the same at every stage… at 8-months, then 10-months, by 18-months, I was over the moon.
Evolution is so rapid in the early years, the true definition of fleeting. Yet, life is rich in a way unimaginable before the birth of your baby. By their second birthday, your baby will be able to express his/her individualism in a way unrivaled by previous months. If your baby is approaching the infamous time, you may have heard stories from friends and family that have you nervous, don’t worry yourself, it may just be wonderful.
From 18 months to 2 years of age, your child’s behavioral and cognitive coping skills will mature greatly. Reasoning will become “possible.” If your child had separation anxiety, he/she may wake up one morning without it. Timeouts are now an option to use as a teaching tool, if you wish. Their vocabulary explodes from age 2 to 3 making communication easier. Although at times it may feel as if you’re along for their roller coaster ride of emotionalism, they truly aim to please.
You may find that year two may not be the year of frustration, but the start of your life with an individual. My youngest daughter is fast approaching 2. I call her “My Little Mischief.” She has an intense luster about her that radiates from within. Her outward personality isn’t what I would call mischievous. She doesn’t get into anything, she’s sweet, kind and patient with her sister that often takes advantage of her generosity. My sentiment regarding her personality lies behind the playfulness of her eyes. They seem to shine through from her soul. Although, since birth she has always had the same intoxicating quality, overnight she has become more of herself, more of a person. She is active, compassionate, adventurous, and mindful… vastly different from previous months. She surprises me everyday. I have never talked to “My Little Mischief” about dreams. Yet, yesterday she woke from her nap with her brows furrowed. She had the intention of informing me of what happened as she slept. She announced, “Mommy, dream… birds… bite… baby-toes, ouch.” She repeated the “sentence” as she grabbed her toes and made a snapping motion. There is nothing I can say about that moment but she is herself now.
Year two with my eldest was also a year of kindness. I gave birth that year. She was calm and patient as I nursed her sister. She quietly rested in bed with me when I needed her to and she minded. So if you are a parent concerned with terrible twos, two might turn out to be your favorite year of them all.
Year four has actually be the hardest year of all, so far, lol. 😉
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